Be sure to read all the way to the bottom - where you'll also find a quick livestream I recorded that was inspired by my "date from hell."
So I once went on a date from hell. It was horrible start to finish. I mean everything this jerk could do wrong, he did! From the time he picked me up, he made me feel insecure about myself. He had the audacity to tell me he’s surprised that I am wearing shorts since my thighs rubbed up against each other. He actually said they’d look better if I had a thigh gap. I am embarrassed to admit this, but I still went out with him that night.
At dinner he made a remark about how much food I ate in comparison to him. He remarked, “boy, you sure have an appetite” when he saw how much I ate compared to him. He made me feel ashamed, like I shouldn’t have eaten as much as I did. Maybe I should have pretended to be full sooner?
On the way home, I started to tell him about my heart-centred dream in which I was embarking on. Half way through telling him about it, he cut me off and said “I don’t think that is going to work, that seems to far-fetched and out there.” He made me shrink back into my seat, feeling foolish for even entertaining my idea and thinking it could become my reality.
When you dropped me off at my house, I spilled the contents of my purse into a puddle as I was exiting his car. Rather than support me, and help me gather my items back up, he criticized me and got annoyed at me for the accident.
Clearly this person was very critical of me. He pointed out flaws that he saw in my body. He made me feel guilty for eating the amount of food I did at dinner. He pointed out reasons my inspired idea was silly & never going to work. He even cast unnecessary judgement at me for making a simple mistake. He was a bully. Clearly, any woman with a right mind would NEVER go out on a date with him again.
Now what if I told you, this man does not exist and it was a story to showcase how one's ego and inner dialogue of thoughts can bombard a person with criticism. Not only on a single occasion, but every single day!
I felt guided to create this story today to show the woman reading this how unfair she often is on herself. How her biggest enemy is never someone else but her own inner critic & thoughts.
I wrote this to make it clear to you that if you wouldn’t consider spending more time with a man that was this mean to you, why on earth would you subject yourself to this same kind of treatment, criticism and judgement from yourself?
Radical self love and care means you have to make it your duty to treat yourself with love and kindness - not just on the outside through actions, but often, more importantly - ON THE INSIDE through your thoughts. Remember, you deserve to treat yourself the way you would expect a romantic partner to.
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In this week's FB Live inside High Vibin' Soulpreneurs, we dive deep on the most essential steps to be the BEST COACH possible to your online clients so that they can get the best results working with you!
1. Dial up your A game 30 mins prior - that means do not schedule back to back calls so that you can recharge and reset between calls (use washroom, read last week's notes, eat a snack and hydrate). Unfortunately 55 min/call coaches, who schedule back to back clients at the top of the hour, often show up late to their clients & are clearly drained.
2. Listen a LOT and practice Motivational Interviewing (have them discover the answer from within instead of shoving it down their throat).
3. Have a plan in place that will move them forward toward their goal - don’t just talk about it but figure out the next best action steps each week - break it down into manageable pieces for them.
4. Do your Self Care, consistently, and make decisions that support your happiness & joy (because this frequency is higher (process of entrainment via LOA effects your client's own vibration). Be sure to exercise frequently, eat healthy and make sleep a priority.
5. Come with tons of water (triple what you think you'll need for call).
6. Be impeccable with your word and super organized - you can’t be hot mess - that is a disservice to your client investing in you and trusting you with their transformation.
7. Take notes CONSTANTLY- make sure you know what is going on and never ever show up unprepared.
8. Email your client the agreed upon "stretches" each week after your call to keep them accountable to their goals and moving forward.
9. Follow up with them on their stretches goals & don't be scared to remind them of why they hired you (many coaches don't even think about this and then their clients end up with no results).
10. Empower them to rise but don’t twist their arms - accountability and follow through is learned THROUGH working with a coach - if you don’t allow them to step up to the plate you disempower them.
11. Lead by example - practice what you preach!!!
12. Set boundaries - they will respect you 10x more and value your time 10x more if you do (that means set hours for your work and terms written into your client contracts regarding no-show or cancellations).
13. Be a relatable human - never try to present you have it all figured out. Be kind, compassionate & honest. If you can, throw in some humour, too!
In today's FB LIVE (inside High Vibin' Soulpreneurs which you can join for free here) I share on 3 Ways To Build a Soul-Driven Business You Are Obsessed With (& avoid having it fall flat and peter out before it even gets started)
Step 1: Your priority is to get clarity on your passions (also known as what energizes you with a burning, unrelenting desire to dedicate your TIME, ENERGY, ATTENTION & INTENTION ON because where energy goes things expand). If you try to create a business on a topic you like (but don’t have an insatiable desire to work on), your inspiration tank will run dry and run out of fuel to stay committed & consistent.
So many women try to build businesses on what they think the public will want or what is “popular” versus what THEY are actually most energized (passionate) about. Think about what you like versus what you can’t keep away from doing.
Step 2. Once you have clarity on what is actually burning in your heart and soul to do, you can THEN take aligned action that will move more mountains in your business than un-aligned action coming from panic, fear, or need for money.
3. Step 3. Give yourself permission to break the mold. You can create a concept that literally has never been done before - in fact, if you have an idea that is so out there, the odds are it is you MEANT to bring that audacious idea to life, period.
A KEY OUTCOME of enrolling in Elevate Your Life is that you gain clarity and confidence in your unique soul-driven purpose and an exact road map to get you to where you want to go - yes in a fulfilling career path, but also an ideal relationship, rock solid self-love & obliterated subconscious blocks to success. Enrolment is full but space for 1 more private client is opening up in 2 weeks and group enrolment has space for 1 more right now.
If this piques your interest, you can apply for next round of openings right here. I would love to learn more about you & what is pulling at your heart to bring forth this next chapter of life :)
Wishing you the best day with heaps of love & joy!
In today's vlog we talk about 3 ways you can start attracting what you ACTUALLY WANT & deserve in a romantic relationship.
The steps described in the video are:
Good luck and happy manifesting!
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Hope you enjoy this training which starts at 3:20 :) You can catch ALL the Livestreams inside the private FB community, High Vibin' Soulpreneurs here.
I believe there are 3 Big Reasons:
Why are women scared of being judged? Because less acceptance means less love and not being part of the group → which leads to loneliness/isolation. Now, we all want to be loved and accepted… but holding back on our dreams is actually an unloving act on OURSELVES. How can we attract love and acceptance from others if we are not yet able to fully love and accept ourselves and our purpose-based businesses?
Your business does not exist out of greed - you’re a Lightworker on a mission to spread positivity and uplifting messages to the world.. People need what you have to share!! Sharing CONSISTENTLY and being more vocal is what will ACTUALLY attract more people to YOU that do love and accept you- and who don’t mind that you sell and promote regularly.
Really? What now is actually wrong with you repeating your message and taking up space online and in person? Do you have less right to be vocal than other women? Do you believe the Divine made some people more worthy to take up space online and you are just not one of them? Stop letting this lie dictate your success because the truth is..
The MORE you share, show up and tell people about what you do and how it is awesome, the more success will come to you. I have sold out Elevate Your Life every single season since I launched.. and it is because I keep showing up and sharing and telling the world about it. I am proud of what my mentorship and program provides women and my consistency with my message (AND SERVICES) is what is getting me the 6 figure results each & every year.
Think about it, if you try with just 50% of what you know you're capable of, then it’s not a true failure if it doesn’t work now is it? Imagine giving your 100% effort and being fully committed - meaning showing up every day to IG, FB, your email list, and never throwing in the towel.. and then what if, after all that, it STILL DOES NOT WORK? That concept is too painful for many women to bare and so they never fully commit and do what IS NECESSARY.
This now brings us to the concept of the Inverted Pyramid of Success - the phases involved and how you can move through into the 3% margin of women. This is explained in the video above!!
Hugs & wishing you massive success,
Hope you enjoy this video which will offer you a mindset kick in the pants to stop caring what other people will think (and allowing THAT to be the reason you play it "safe" in life).
If you liked this video, you will also LOVE the FREE TRAINING on: 5 Simple Ways To Elevate Your Life, Master the Law of Attraction & Align With Your Deepest Desires In Life, Career & Relationships. You can sign up here!
You can also catch ALL the Livestreams inside the private FB community, High Vibin' Soulpreneurs here.
Can you feel it? There is an uprising of women who have been awakened and now left questioning the status quo & if there could be something more than what they have been experiencing.
That said, there is still some resistance (from others) with women being able to step up and into their power. This often comes from people who don't understand why you want more out of life. They say things like:
If any of these questions struck a cord inside your heart, there’s a very good chance you are the kind of woman meant to enrol in Elevate Your Life (Transformational 16 Week Journey that Catapults Already Successful Women into the 1% of the 1%).
It is for women willing to give themselves permission to dream big and be open to believing they are deserving and worthy of having their deepest desires, unique to them, come true.
Yep, it’s not for everyone and not for women scared of what others will think. It’s for bad-ass lightworkers, with hearts of gold, who believe their crazy-audacious dreams do matter and can come to life!🙌🏻💥
These are the final days to submit your application here:)
In this new video, you will learn: How to Find & Heal Subconscious Patterns Limiting Success In Your Life (my brain injury, addiction, divorce & catfishing example). I hope you enjoy!
If you'd like to sign up for the upcoming live training (5 Ways To Elevate Your Life, Master the Law of Attraction & Feel More Joy, Ease & Freedom), you can right here.
This free training will provide you essential steps to up-level your life but also (at the end) more details on what the Signature Program, Elevate Your Life, provides to women around the world every year.
Saturn goes retrograde now until mid-September!
If this post caught your eye, it is probably because you've heard about Mercury Retrograde, which has a bad rap in mainstream media these days. Well, this post is to assure you that when Saturn goes retrograde there is nothing to fear! It is also important to clarify that this is not the same as when "Saturn Returns." That is a whole different ball game which you can learn about here.
The reason this planetary retrograde is favourable for us is that it triggers us to dive a little deeper and explore what it is that our soul truly yearns for us to do, be and experience in this lifetime. When this retrograde cycle comes around it lasts about 4 months at which time we are given an opportunity for self-discovery and contemplation.
This delicious period literally speeds up the rate at which we can discover and unlock our purpose in this life or incarnation. This is the period to rediscover who you truly are, go deeper & remember and apply why you are here.
If you've been feeling a little lost lately or out of sorts, then this is your time to go within so that by August you come out feeling sparkly and bright, connected and aligned to what you are truly meant to do. Introspection, journaling, alone time (especially in nature) is excellent during this time. If it is difficult to find alone time or get outside, trying bringing nature's elements to you. You can do this by working with healing crystals (placing in your pockets, holding during meditation or reading or wearing as jewelry). Essential oils (sourced from the plant kingdom) are also great to accompany you. Diffusing or nebulizing them in your home is a sure fire way to bring Mama Nature's healing energy into your home.
So I hope you feel excited to hear of this planetary cycle and look forward with eagerness to where you'll be and how you'll feel come August! This is also an incredibly powerful and effective time to enrol in a self development course or study group. I have created a Signature 16 Week Program called Elevate Your Life (and become an energetic match to your deepest desires & wildest dreams).
This program is for you, if you've done what what society expected of you, and despite that, you are:
EYL Signature Coaching System unlike anything else on the market. It is a truly unique & multi-faceted approach to reaching high levels of success & fulfillment. This offering takes you through a step-by-step sequence, with key milestones, which will unleash & activate your highest potential. Although an effective system is in place, there is also flexibility & flow to ensure service is custom-tailored to your unique needs. This signature sequence ensures you move through & experience positive transformation so that you leave feeling wildly obsessed with life (& elevated to your new energy set point or vibrational frequency). Once this happens, your life will just keep getting better and better. The sky is the limit with no goal too big or out of reach.
Enrollment hits max capacity every single season & now includes a LIVE in-person mastermind event I host for the Super-Tribe of women I work with!
If this excites you, feel free to explore the price tiers here.
You can also email me at email@example.com and ask me more questions if you like. This year's enrollment has 2 tiers including a group mentorship and private VIP mentorship, pending your needs:)